I am so upset and furious - my husband in his enthusiasm for gardening has just massacred a much loved plant of mine that has taken so long to nurture. I cannot believe it. I cannot believe that knowing how I feel about greenery, he did this now saying that it will grow again 'much better'. There was nothing wrong with the blasted thing although he's now sulking and trying to tell me it was dead. DEAD?? DEAD?? Of all the stupid things to do - he is now hiding from me because I totally lost it.
This is one time when I am convinced that men are from Mars.
Love this illustration though frankly pruning might suit some men better. I feel your pain.
ReplyDeleteBTW I recommended to a friend of mine with marital problems the book Men are from Mars and she said she read it and it just made her angrier because obviously it was written to explain to us citizens of Venus that we had to learn the Martial language and be responsible for all the translating.
Recently had a similar occurence (talk about synchronicity!) regarding a Africian Violet. I know someone (I wont mention any names but he smells of testerone) watered it with distilled water. The kind that comes in medical bottles and has a preservative agent which is notat all healthy for plants! I am trying my best to salvage the plant the flowers on one side are still holding up but the leaves (except one) have curled and are not well. Time will tell. Have you tried a gardening appreciation course for hub? Sure that may work and we have to always reassess how men think; we women not coming from the analogue age!Humph; amateur landscaping skills. Maybe green-thumbs are acquired? Good luck dear!
ReplyDeleteHow frustrating. I bet we could fill a row.
ReplyDeleteYup. My hubs has positively infuriated me from time to time. Touch HIS stuff? NOT. Touch MY stuff???? Fair game. I finally knocked out that bit of unpleasantness. The yard? The hubs thinks weeds with little flowers are okay in the garden. Rolling my eyes here. Decorative bamboo shoots are fluffy and pretty. You think??? So what about the rest of the garden when the invaders overtake everything? Darn right he should be hiding. Nurture away and put up a barrier with a Do Not TOUCH sign lest he forget.
ReplyDeleteWe have our own areas here in England. When in Tennessee, I have the say so. L admits he has a brown thumb, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that. I just say what needs doing and he does it. He doesn't know any different in the garden. I have had experiences like yours before and I know how infuriating it is, but there are plenty of ways you can get your own back, you know!
ReplyDeleteBee, this is hilarious!! How did you ever find that cartoon?!:) I would rather have the upper hand as you have here than being the one who slipped up on one of his hobbies/projects! Yikes! Marriage is always a work in progress, isn't it?:)... Best, Margaret
ReplyDeleteif you plant him he might spread and be invasivce....bee careful! hahah
ReplyDeletethis EXACT thing happened to me last fall. Three beloved plants hacked to the ground. :( I feel your pain. Oh dear, bee~!
ReplyDeleteOoooops, I must plead guilty to this grave sin! I also pruned a plant that was growing rather wildly. I also heard the same criticism that your husband did. However, in my defence, the plant is now growing much stronger and has a more pleasing shape - I have recently heard words of approval regarding my pruning...
ReplyDeleteWell people I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only one and that there are other husbands out there who don't know that 'trim and prune' is very different from 'chop and clear'!!!
ReplyDeleteI am over the initial shock and fury - I shouldn't have taken it so badly because it's not the first time. Many years ago when we lived in England it was so bad that the front garden became his and the back which was much larger became mine after he destroyed an entire row of gladioli in an attempt to catch our daughter's pesky rabbit! He almost went into the hutch with the rabbit by the time I'd finished! I'll let you know of the 'dead' plant ever recovers and if it does, if it looks better - looked pretty healthy to me!
I cannot remember where I got the cartoon Margaret. Possibly from Google images. I've had it for years and have used it before!
haha...the other day we saw this little rubber man you put in water and he grows 10x the size...called grow a boy friend....
ReplyDeleteBee . . you should follow the saga of Ada and Caddoc Trellis. Maybe you do already. If you tuned in to their marital mayhem, life would not seem so bad. You need to start well down the list of posts. Their story runs and runs.
ReplyDeleteThis is how my Better (I use the word advisedly) Half gets me. You know how some plants have more than one name? Maybe 2 botanical names as well as a common name. "Love Lies Bleeding" for example. BH uses them interchangeably to keep me confused. I'm easily confused. I get so mad at this wifely prank I chew the carpet.
How big was he to start with Brian?I hate to think............
ReplyDeleteDoctor, I do follow them occasionally and they always make me laugh.............I like the sound of your Better Half - she has it off to a T and you get hair balls!