The Blog of Bee
Saturday, November 26, 2022
It's Been a Long, Long Time
Tuesday, November 2, 2021
All Souls and a Birthday 2021
Today, the 2nd November is All Souls' Day. It's also my husband's birthday and he has been part of that group for 12 days short of five years. For years I wrote about All Souls followed by a normally humorous tagline which read that it was also my husband's birthday adding what might or might not be for dinner!All Souls' is a Catholic Day of Remembrance for friends and loved ones who have passed away. On this day, during Requiem Masses, the Office of the Dead is recited.
Today and this evening many families will go to their family plots and graves, gather around, and even take picnic baskets to celebrate those who have gone before them. Tonight every grave will be lit up by candles so that the cemetery/graveyard will just for one night of the year, be bathed in candlelight. I would like to think that visitors would also light a candle on graves of the forgotten ones. In many instances, those graves are not forgotten. It's just that for various reasons not everyone can visit. My father lies over 4,000 miles away and there's no way I could fly to be at his side tonight. But I can and will light candles for both he and Mummy, and Richard.
I like the customs and traditions of some European countries where candles are burning continuously (24/7) as one did on my Austrian grandmother's grave. Sadly there is no one left there to look after it but I do know that the graveyard keepers when they know there is no family left, do keep the candles lit. In some of those countries, there is a photograph of the deceased together with an eternal flame.
The origins of this day have been attributed to various religious orders. Some say the Cluny Order (the nuns still teach here in Trinidad), others the Benedictine monks who are also very much here, living in the monastery on Mount St Benedict, a major landmark in this country.
The Benedictine Monastery, Mt St Benedict, Trinidad
Whoever it was, it is a wonderful custom which to this day, is celebrated, not only here but in many Catholic countries.
May God bless all those souls that have gone before us and as I hold those in my family who have departed in my heart, I will raise a glass to them and an extra one to Richard who would have been eighty today, and give thanks for the memories. Happy Birthday Richard as you watch over me and the family from your place in heaven. x
Sunday, June 20, 2021
Remembering a Wonderful Father.
Gerrard, J J
Theatre of Combat or Operation:
Foreign to British-Oman
The Sultan's Distinguished Service Medal (Gallantry)
SUPPLEMENT TO THE LONDON GAZETTE, ISra FEBRUARY 1968
HER MAJESTY THE QUEEN has been graciously pleased to approve that the under-named be Mentioned in Despatches for Distinguished Services in South Arabia:
Captain (Quartermaster) John Joseph GERRARD, BEM (478467), Royal Corps of Signals.
Mentioned in Despatches several times
I would have to write a book to tell you about my father but what I can say in a few words is that he was a colourful character, a disciplinarian, an achiever, never one to take 'no' for an answer, one not always easy to live up to, compassionate, respected by his peers and loved by his family. So many words to describe this military, highly decorated man of many talents. Hot tempered in youth, mellowed with age, adventurer, great conversationalist with a fantastic sense of humour.
My love of books and music was inherited from this multi-faceted man who had a permanent twinkle in his eye and a ferocious appetite for life. He packed a great deal into his 65 years on this earth and on Father's Day as every day, almost 34 years after his death I still miss him terribly. Gone too early because a medical condition was not detected during a compulsory, annual company medical.
I imagine him in heaven, book in hand listening to maybe Lehar, Shirley Bassey, Tchaikovsky, Tom Jones, The Sand Pipers or Verdi with my mother at his side and his forever faithful Golden Labrador at his feet.
I will raise a glass to you today Daddy and remember the laughter, the love, the reprimands (yes there were reprimands when my best was not good enough!) the encouragement, the debates, the heated discussions, and the time we did spend together as we got to know each other and came to understand one another over the 65 years of a wonderful if at times trying, father and daughter relationship.
Thursday, November 5, 2020
A Seventy Fourth Wedding Anniversary
The couple persevered, jumped all the hurdles, dodged the obstacles, and eventually as I said at the beginning, married on the 5 November 1946. Their daughter was baptized the following year in the same Cathedral.
Sunday, April 26, 2020
Our House - A Light Bulb Moment!
Our House - Light Bulb Moment!
Goes to find a bulb and only has 75 watts and this contraption takes a 60 watt. Never mind, that will do for this evening! Inserts bulb into lamp socket, upends lamp and turns the switch. Nada!! Huh! And I thought this was a good buy! Ponders - now what? Stares at floor and suddenly a real light bulb moment! Plug at the end of the cord is not plugged into the wall socket! Why? Because the blue tooth speaker is being charged in the socket where the lamp plug would normally be!! Shakes head and thinks 'you've lost all of your brain cells'!! 60 watt bulb restored and back in business!
Me: I have to hoover.
Husband: No, you have to vacuum. Hoover is a brand name.
Me sarcastically: So tell me, why do you call tissues Kleenex?
Thursday, April 23, 2020
Our House - My Day Was Made!
I was more than amused!
Yesterday morning much against my will, I had to break my lockdown of weeks (since 19 March!) and go to the bank. I was somewhat apprehensive. So donning my compulsory mask, I went before it opened, to Republic, West Mall. For anyone who knows the Mall, I found myself at the end of a line that went back further than Wonderful World!! A lady came by saying before she stormed off, how ridiculous this was as the first hour (10 am till 11) is reserved for senior citizens. My son came towards me and said he would bring me up to date. He then called me saying that a lady from the bank was walking down the line, to stay put and she would eventually get to me. I saw her in the distance and she was pulling people out of the line obviously directing them elsewhere. So I waited as she neared me but hey ho, she got to me and walked straight on!
Me: Excuse me, are you looking for senior citizens?
Her walking back to me: Yes.
Me: Well, I'm a senior ........
Her: Oh! Really?
Told me where to go.....
I was in and out of the bank in less than seven minutes.
Going back to car, I told my son what had happened.
Him: Not surprised. I thought that would happen!
Made my day!! 😁😁
Sunday, April 19, 2020
Our House - Disaster in the Kitchen!
I hope what just happened to me isn't going to be the setting for the coming week!! I just opened the oven door to add the marinated chicken breast to the baking potato, when one side of the handle dropped down and as I was looking for the screw to put it back together, the same happened to the other side of the handle. The entire handle landed on the floor and the door flew open! Still can't find the screws to put it back together. The door is now propped up with a kitchen stool and so it's going to now be pan-seared chicken with sauteed parsley potatoes!! That is when the heat from the oven dies down. Pours glass of wine! Geez!
You gotta laugh!
I did say to dear friend Jacqui Binford-Bell last week that the 'Our House' series was not dead! Not by a long way!!